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Puxi Campus Grade 4-5: Parent School—Take Care of Mental Health

May 26, 2021

To create a learning community where parents, teachers, and students participate together, the fourth and fifth grades of SHSID Puxi Campus invited Ms. Zhang Lujia, certified psychotherapist of the department of clinical psychology at East Hospital Affiliated to Tongji University, to give a lecture in the Zhentao Building lecture hall on the evening of May 25th. The theme was the Mental Secret of Teens. Ms. Zhang talked about how to differentiate mental health problems and mental illness, the psychological developmental traits of teenagers and common problems, tips for parents to deal with the mental challenges, and how to get along with teenagers.

First of all, Ms. Zhang introduced the meaning of mental health and compared the differences between mental health problems and mental illness. Mental problems or disturbances are normal mental activities. Each of us has ups and downs and if the uncontrollable feelings cause troubles or even disorders in our daily behaviors, emotions, or cognition, professional intervention is needed. Ms. Zhang also provided a Self-Rating Depression Scale and a Self-Rating Anxiety Scale to help the audience to understand their current mental situation.

Afterward, Ms. Zhang emphasized the importance of relationships; she mentioned three areas in interpersonal therapy and suggested the first thing parents need to do is to avoid conflicts, creating a peaceful and happy environment for the children. Meanwhile, Ms. Zhang advocated for the parents to raise awareness for children’s physical and mental change. She further analyzed the process of children and teenagers’ mental and cognitive development from the developmental psychology’s perspective. Parents should notice the different cognitive, moral, and behavioral development in different ages to follow the developmental pattern rather than feeling too anxious about the changes.

Later, Ms. Zhang provided more concrete and detailed guidance. In short, the advice is to educate with both care and discipline. Caring is not spoiling but creating a sense of safety. Care from parents for the child is like providing nutrition to the root of a plant. If a child has enough care (nutrition), even if they meet setbacks in the future, they can defend themselves when any problem arises. With the proper care, children can build resilience, including confidence, commitment, self-control, and the ability to conquer challenges.

When children meet problems, the first thing parents need to do is to empathize with the children and understand children’s emotions by listening patiently and sincerely. After that, parents can have better communication about the actual problems. Ms. Zhang suggested that parents listen with kindness and attention, welcome children’s idea, and no reject with hostility. When parents can provide helpful supports, children are more willing to seek help from parents and have more effective communication with parents.

Finally, Ms. Zhang encouraged parents to first care for their own emotions, to have a positive mindset, and better get along with their children. Ms. Chris, the director of grades 4-5, thought educators and parents are like gardeners who provide a safe but free space for children to grow happily.

(WrittenbyWuYin,SunFanfan Pictures byKang Nina Edited by Huang Shiyuan, Mikah Jimenez)